Written by Ray Kate, Health Coach & Reiki Master, IFBB Pro, Certified Master Trainer

Photo by Lu

Learning from our relationships and experiences is crucial in life. The people we surround ourselves with can greatly impact various aspects of our lives, reflecting who we are. A positive social environment not only contributes to personal longevity, but also provides the necessary support that’s needed to be successful in life in every way. 

From an early age, I discovered the significance of forming deep connections through exercise and sports. Initially unaware, my experiences in sports taught me a unique approach to building relationships. My interactions with teammates provided valuable lessons in integrity, loyalty,
and support, shaping my perspective on forming genuine connections.

The relationships I cultivated through my years as an athlete always aligned me with confidence and self-connection. As I matured, I realized the importance of actively seeking out environments that fostered accountability and self-care. I also experienced how lacking such structure and support people who valued the same things could significantly impact my mental, physical, and emotional well-being.


“As you recognize the value of having four quarters rather than one hundred pennies, you
can focus your energy more effectively.”


Many would argue that creating a community and nurturing positive social connections centered around health and fitness leads to lower rates of chronic illnesses, improved immune function, and increased longevity. The emotional support provided by healthy relationships can also encourage healthy lifestyle choices, which are essential for sustained positive change.

When evaluating the people in your life or the environments where you spend your time, consider asking yourself two simple questions: 

1. Does this environment or person motivate me to be better?

2. Does this environment or person bring out the best in me?

As you recognize the value of having four quarters rather than one hundred pennies, you can focus your energy more effectively, surrounding yourself with higher quality people and environments that serve your best interests. This involves aligning with your true self, which is the most crucial factor. The more you concentrate on aligning with a routine and a life that empowers you to be your best self, the external world will reflect back to you, fostering personal growth for yourself and those around you.

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